I’m sitting on the subway in New York typing this, so forgive me if it seems like another “rant!” That’s the way I think a lot of the time.
Things are getting very “Holidays” in New York. Lights, music, storefronts…we’re all “gearing up” for the big event. But as we get ready for the Holiday season, there are some important things I want you to remember.
1. Don’t let your “diet” upset your mom.
I’m no stranger to big family dinners over the Holidays where everyone is eating a lot of food. The general consensus at these family gatherings is that more food is better, especially if you come from a Cuban family like mine where food is extremely important.
Being a thriver, you want to be healthy. You want to make healthy choices for your body. So what do you do when the relatives tell you to “eat, eat, eat”?
There’s no clear answer. If you’re trying to lose weight or simply thrive, sometimes you just have to explain to the host , maybe your mom, that you can’t eat as many of her cookies as you used to. Sometimes this will be hard, but so be it. Or have as many baked goods as you wish, guilt-free. Just be mindful as you are doing it.
If you have to explain your diet, do it quickly. No need to make a big deal out of it. Then get back to having a good time.
2. Your time here is limited.
Not trying to be morbid here, but there are only so many days, weeks, or years left on our calendars before we bite the dust. Some of us know this more deeply than others. The point here is that, because our time is limited, time is the most precious gift we could give to anyone.
Forget “buying” the right gift. Spend time with your loved ones. Talk. Get cozy. Call a friend you haven’t called in a long time. In the end, it’s the time we spend with others that really matters.
3. Vacation doesn’t mean “working from home.”
I’m passionate about helping my patients. I’m passionate about new research and finding new answers to questions about men’s health and urological problems. I love my work in every way—but at the same time, when it comes to the Holidays, I make a real effort to take time off.
Taking time off is important for your physical and mental health. It helps you to relax. It helps you to regain perspective. It helps you to spend time on other things that are important. And during the Holidays, all three of these things are incredibly important.
What you should do
Remember to take “real” time off from work, spend time with your family and loved ones, remember that your time here is limited, and please don’t make a big stink about your lifestyle choices at family gatherings. The goal here is balance and happiness…not another “thing” to worry about.